Saturday, April 24, 2010

Is Emotional Sobriety Freeing?

A continuation of my recent library post... and yet another result...

Having just launched one of my new children out into the world, I am enthused and embroiled in all the nuances of the subject I embraced.  One of my meanderings of late took me to the giant self-help section of my local library (we must all need lots and lots of help for this section to be so big :)  where I found a book called Emotional Sobriety: From Relationship Trauma to Resilience and Balance by Tian Dayton.

I wondered what Emotional Sobriety might have in common with Emotional Freedom, so this book came home with me - one of my borrowed friends.

All in all I found that the two subjects have quite a lot in common, though the viewpoints come from different perspectives, for the basic conclusions are the same: you must move with your emotions in order to enjoy health.  The Sobriety book focuses on the trauma that can inhibit movement.  The guided audio program I created helps the movement to occur.

I found that the last chapter of Daytons book contained sixteen habits of emotionally sober people, and from my perspective they are succinct and correct, and so I offer them to you in addition to my own program.

According to Dayton, people that are "emotionally sober" have the following traits:

  • they are able to self-reflect: they take charge of their own lives
  • they take responsibility for their own attitudes
  • they have goals and work toward meeting them
  • they consciously maintain good habits
  • they have good boundaries
  • they know their own shortcomings and insecurities
  • they avoid unnecessary conflict but speak up when necessary
  • they have realistic expectations of life
  • they take responsibility for their own moods
  • they have and live by good values
  • they are grateful and appreciative of what life gives them
  • they maintain strong relationship networks
  • they are active and get involved in life
  • they tend to have a positive belief system of some kind
  • they live in the present
  • they have a balanced and mature outlook on life
As I concluded the book I recognized the list as the series of outcomes that arrive when Emotional Freedom is expressed.  For a background of recognition on what and how you might have experienced relationship trauma in your own life, and the science behind why you might have suffered as a result, I recommend this book highly.  It can serve as a wonderful companion to the experience of Emotional Freedom and offer you great understanding of your history.

For ways to get through the movement and transformational process of the feelings themselves, I am happy to light the path that can show you the way. You can listen to a sample of Fundamentals of Emotional Freedom right on the Yokibics website (my my, we ARE getting high tech!) You will learn how to recognize which emotion is moving through you, what language you are using that holds it in place, and experience a guided meditation to move you in the direction of the positive aspect of each and every feeling you have.

Enjoy your emotional freedom today.  You won't feel stagnant, and you may find any range of feelings from high to low, happy to sad, and everywhere else in between - but that is the point! The feeling of emotion coupled with the intention to embrace the result is what makes transformation possible.

Your freedom to flow with the experience of life is the joyful result.  It is my honor to assist.

Have a great ride...

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