Saturday, April 24, 2010

Is Emotional Sobriety Freeing?

A continuation of my recent library post... and yet another result...

Having just launched one of my new children out into the world, I am enthused and embroiled in all the nuances of the subject I embraced.  One of my meanderings of late took me to the giant self-help section of my local library (we must all need lots and lots of help for this section to be so big :)  where I found a book called Emotional Sobriety: From Relationship Trauma to Resilience and Balance by Tian Dayton.

I wondered what Emotional Sobriety might have in common with Emotional Freedom, so this book came home with me - one of my borrowed friends.

All in all I found that the two subjects have quite a lot in common, though the viewpoints come from different perspectives, for the basic conclusions are the same: you must move with your emotions in order to enjoy health.  The Sobriety book focuses on the trauma that can inhibit movement.  The guided audio program I created helps the movement to occur.

I found that the last chapter of Daytons book contained sixteen habits of emotionally sober people, and from my perspective they are succinct and correct, and so I offer them to you in addition to my own program.

According to Dayton, people that are "emotionally sober" have the following traits:

  • they are able to self-reflect: they take charge of their own lives
  • they take responsibility for their own attitudes
  • they have goals and work toward meeting them
  • they consciously maintain good habits
  • they have good boundaries
  • they know their own shortcomings and insecurities
  • they avoid unnecessary conflict but speak up when necessary
  • they have realistic expectations of life
  • they take responsibility for their own moods
  • they have and live by good values
  • they are grateful and appreciative of what life gives them
  • they maintain strong relationship networks
  • they are active and get involved in life
  • they tend to have a positive belief system of some kind
  • they live in the present
  • they have a balanced and mature outlook on life
As I concluded the book I recognized the list as the series of outcomes that arrive when Emotional Freedom is expressed.  For a background of recognition on what and how you might have experienced relationship trauma in your own life, and the science behind why you might have suffered as a result, I recommend this book highly.  It can serve as a wonderful companion to the experience of Emotional Freedom and offer you great understanding of your history.

For ways to get through the movement and transformational process of the feelings themselves, I am happy to light the path that can show you the way. You can listen to a sample of Fundamentals of Emotional Freedom right on the Yokibics website (my my, we ARE getting high tech!) You will learn how to recognize which emotion is moving through you, what language you are using that holds it in place, and experience a guided meditation to move you in the direction of the positive aspect of each and every feeling you have.

Enjoy your emotional freedom today.  You won't feel stagnant, and you may find any range of feelings from high to low, happy to sad, and everywhere else in between - but that is the point! The feeling of emotion coupled with the intention to embrace the result is what makes transformation possible.

Your freedom to flow with the experience of life is the joyful result.  It is my honor to assist.

Have a great ride...

Monday, April 12, 2010

Abundance at the Library

I have a trick for changing the view of my circumstances when the perspective needs a boost in the direction of clarity and abundance.

The trick is to go visit my public library.  

Yup, that regular old-fashioned bastion of wisdom and knowledge stuffed to the brim with most anything you might want to explore.

Do any of you over the age of 10 still actually go there?  

Too busy you say? Pshaw...

It is an amazing experience when viewed from the perspective of the Mystic. Books of all sorts are available to feed mind, body and spirit - fiction,  non-fiction, biographies, art, travel, food, periodicals, and music galore!    

On my recent visit I sat in one of the big red leather high back chairs that face the fireplace in this old library building of mine, and read, and scanned, and looked, and absorbed, and enjoyed the diversity of opportunity there. In several hours I hit only the tiniest tip of the iceberg of what is actually available. 

I wonder how often we can see the wide open sky of opportunity and choice - of options and availabilities when we are in the midst of strife and struggle...?  

Go to the library - you'll feel better

When I was done noodling around, I chose two full armfuls of great stuff to bring home with me.

(These are the bonus points - my nose has been buried all week in the lushness of it all.)

And my ears!

Piano and cello and voices soar from the CDs I collected just because - and if I don't love what I hear?  Click! Time to change to another.

The thing about the library is you get to experience what you love without owning it...

Yes, without owning it.

You know at the outset that in a month you'll have to return all your new "friends."

Go ahead and love what you are reading, feeling, seeing and hearing - but don't get too attached to the box it comes in!

And even better - no clutter - the sworn enemy of productivity and clarity.

What a wonderful reminder of what abundance actually is, for we know there will be many more books to greet us and call out to us from the shelves again and again once we return.

The lessons of abundance tell us there is always more - if perhaps different in shape and size and content.

And truthfully - there is no "owning" anything at all - not really.  We use that little human illusion to make us feel safe in the face of the more enduring knowledge that no matter how hard we hang on, "this too shall pass."

May all of you open your eyes wide and see the lushness around you.

May all of you experience the fullness of your life.


Monday, April 5, 2010

Easter and the Sacred View

Well it's the day after Easter, and I imagine that many of you who celebrated have lots of hard-boiled eggs to eat (unless you're a fan of the plastic.)  And some leftover peeps lurking about.  And maybe some ham to top it off...

I went to wiki to check out something of the origins of Easter and was near to overwhelmed with the scope and diversity of it's history. I'll leave it to you to check out   this link   and see for yourself if you're a history or theology buff.  We have countries of origin, customs and celebrations to explore...etymology, theological significance, and of course, the ever present controversies. 

For me the meaning of any holiday lies not in the symbol or the tradition or the place where it all began, though those things can bring a sense of familiarity and solidarity among the celebrants, but perhaps it serves to look beyond the symbol and inquire what you felt in your soul while you celebrated. 

Did you appreciate the opportunity to be with family and friends?  Were you grateful for the inevitable abundance of food and sharing?  Were you able to invoke a sense of the sacred while you hid eggs or cooked or visited?

Without the sacred being recognized and acknowledged we can devolve any celebration into the glitzy and/or the banal.  We can forget the reason for being there at all, regardless of tradition or custom or theological significance.

We can forget to celebrate the life we have, and to love what we have created with it.  

May all the ways you seek renewal be given unto you.

May all the seeds you have planted sprout and find their way to strength.

May your own spirit rising be all that you hope for, and all that you need it to be.

Blessings to you,